Community guidelines

Everyone agrees to these when they join, and again when they change. They build on what mentorship is and isn't and sit alongside our privacy policy.

For everyone

For everyone on Kandari, mentor and mentee alike.

  1. You're 18 or older

    Kandari is for adults. If you're under 18, please don't create an account.

  2. Treat everyone with respect

    No harassment, discrimination, threats or demeaning remarks, about anyone's gender, religion, ethnicity, age, disability, background or anything else.

  3. Be who you say you are

    Use your real name, and describe your experience and where you work honestly. Verified roles are what make the platform worth trusting.

  4. No selling, recruiting fees or money

    Mentoring here is free. Don't charge for it, sell products or services, ask for money or loans, or use conversations to recruit people into schemes.

  5. Keep it professional

    No romantic or sexual advances, and no pressure to meet somewhere you're not comfortable. Either of you can end a mentorship at any time, no reason needed.

  6. Don't record without asking

    Don't record, screenshot or forward a conversation unless the other person has agreed to it.

  7. Tell us when something's wrong

    Use the private feedback after each session, or email us. We take every report seriously and may remove anyone who breaks these guidelines.

As a mentee

What mentorship is, and isn't, from your side.

  1. A mentor isn't a route to a job or a referral Most important

    Don't expect your mentor to hire you, refer you, or pass your CV along, and don't ask for that. If a mentor gets to know you and chooses to recommend you, that's their decision. It can come out of the relationship, but it's never the reason for it.

  2. You lead the mentorship

    Bring the goals and questions, prepare before each session, and try what you discussed. Your mentor offers perspective; the decisions and the work stay yours.

  3. Respect your mentor's time

    They volunteer it. Turn up on time, keep to the length you agreed, and cancel early if you can't make it.

  4. Keep what your mentor shares in confidence

    Mentors often share candid stories about their work and their employer. Don't repeat or post them without asking.

  5. A mentor isn't a counsellor or therapist

    They can listen, but if you're struggling with your mental health, please also talk to a professional.

  6. Close the loop

    Tell your mentor what you did with their advice, give honest feedback after sessions, and say thank you. It's why they keep mentoring.

As a mentor

The trust a mentee places in you, and what you owe them.

  1. What your mentee shares with you is privileged Most important

    Their plans, doubts, CV, salary, health, family or anything else they tell you stays between the two of you. You won't share it, or use it outside your conversations, for example in hiring decisions, with their employer, or with colleagues, unless you both agree to it.

  2. Don't promise jobs, referrals or favours

    You're here to share perspective, not to recruit. Never offer a job, referral or introduction in exchange for anything, and be careful not to imply one you won't give.

  3. No personal gain

    Don't charge, sell, ask for favours, or use a mentee's ideas or work as your own. Mentoring on Kandari is given freely.

  4. Your mentee makes their own decisions

    Share what you've seen and ask good questions, then respect their choice, even if you'd choose differently.

  5. Be honest about your limits

    Say when something is outside your experience, and suggest who might know. If a mentee seems to be in distress, encourage them to talk to a professional.

  6. Be reliable

    Keep the times you offer, confirm or decline requests promptly, and say no when you're full rather than leaving people waiting.

Something not right? Use the private feedback after a session, or email [email protected]. Breaking these guidelines can lead to your account being removed.